Saturday, August 14, 2010

The Corner

Not standing in it, but turning it. It seems we have done so this summer.

Anyone who has adopted an older child understands attachment and how it can sometimes trigger meltdowns or behaviors when a child feels the attachment isn't secure. We are going on four years now and she has been to two summer camps, had two sleep away from home nights with friends, and walked to the park with friends with no ill effects. I am so happy.

Things really do seem to be at a good place right now. She is happy and well behaved. She laughs a lot. She is still a handful, but in the way that any 12 year old girl is.

She likes clothes, jewelry, her phone, her friends, and food.

I hope this is a way of life forever for us. I'm not sure if these two things had anything to do with it, but I think they do.

First, she wanted to cease all mention of adoption and her birthfamily. She chose to close the adoption. I don't think it is the healthiest thing but I am going with it.

Second, I gave up the notion of me having all control. It has made things so much better. I wish I would have done it years ago. (just in general)

This year should be wonderful for her. She will be in the 7th grade and I am hoping for a banner year.